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Solitude Vs. Loneliness

I’ve been told that in order to love and find love/happiness you must experience life completely ALONE. You must learn about yourself, you must understand your own emotions, thoughts, and behaviors without the influence of another. You must detach from the world….To experience SOLITUDE is to find an inner strength, a beauty within yourself. SOLITUDE creates confidence within an individual.

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How can one achieve SOLITUDE? Many may attempt to experience the power of SOLITUDE….but the truth is…It’s hard to accomplish. Humans crave the affection and attention of others. We have been programmed to NEED others to feel comfort and happiness. Therefore, when we place ourselves in SOLITUDE we allow our programmed thoughts to control our emotions….which creates the feeling of loneliness.

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Loneliness can destroy us if we allow it to. We create LONELINESS by telling ourselves negative things…nobody wants me, people don’t understand me, I’ll never find someone to connect with, I have no friends, people reject me, I’m unloveable….It’s easy to bring ourselves down. It’s easy to trap ourselves and experience LONELINESS…It’s easy to fear SOLITUDE…It’s easy to find someone, anyone to try to stop the feeling of LONELINESS and find comfort in another.

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Now what do we do??? Embrace the feeling of LONELINESS…find another to ease the pain we feel? Or do we…fight, and struggle for a little while in order to experience the power of SOLITUDE?? Well there is no correct answer…you are the creator of your life…you have the power to decide the type of life you want to live.

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Just remember it’s been said…in order to find true happiness you must understand yourself, you must know who you are…without the influence of another. It’s up to you to decide how long you must stay in SOLITUDE or if you rather not experience SOLITUDE. I can tell you from experience my last 3 years of SOLITUDE has been the most exhilarating, painful, educational, strength finding, confidence building 3 years of my life. I will forever be grateful for the knowledge I’ve gained…I have confidence that it’ll lead to more GREATNESS. Make a choice…If you’re in need of direction…The Counselors at Positive Soul Holistic Therapy can guide you.

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The Doors…

I don’t know about y’all but it seems just as things are going well and stress free a DOOR SLAMS in my face!!! Which causes me to jump into HUSTLE mode to get things accomplished.

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I’ve always been a firm believer in God’s plan. When DOORS close for me I tend to find one that opens easily and change my path. I used to completely freak out and go into panic mode…Which still happens at first. Then I come to my senses, and remember things happen for a reason, people come in and out of my life for a reason, people change their minds, and lie for a reason. Everything I encounter and experience is part of my plan.

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Although I have no idea what God has in store for me…I do know that he’ll never fail me. Even through tragedy he will stand by my side. I must continue to have faith and believe.  Karma is real and I believe those who do wrong, focus on the dollar, or listen to others instead of following their heart…will have their payback in time. BTW…I don’t wish negativity upon anyone…I let Karma take on that responsibility!! Now its Time to HUSTLE!! Look out for great things coming your way.

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What’s so SCARY about Mental Illness??

Throughout history the topic of mental illness has been almost taboo. They used to burn crazy women “witches” at the stake, and give the misunderstood or those who were out of control a lobotomy. Even to this day some view mental illness as a disease or something you won’t be able to overcome. Families will shut out members that they don’t understand or can’t stand to be around….Friends will do the same…Doctors will pump children with large amounts of medication, before they are even old enough to develop skills to help themselves get out of the chaos their minds have put them in…Teachers will label children as the ”BAD” kid.

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So, what happens to the person or the child who is silently struggling…the misunderstood that get rejected…???

Why has society developed such a negative stigma in regards to mental health? Why is our first instinct to give medication? Why is it that when someone says they are seeing a counselor we think, oh that person must be crazy? Why do people refuse to seek help? Why do people give up on life?

So many questions!!! I believe the answer is EDUCATION! We must teach society about mental health and the options to treatment. We must teach that mental illness is not a death sentence, that mental illness is not a weakness, that mental illness is treatable.

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There are many movements and organizations attempting to shed some light on the negativity attached to mental health. As a Counselor I try to open the eyes of others through blogging about my own mental health struggles, I share with clients, I support mental health and will educate every chance I get. You never know when your words can help someone who struggles.

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Counseling: I have been a counselor for nine years. I learn something new everyday. My clients teach me and I teach them. We work together to find a comfortable balance for their daily lives. Counseling can be empowering!! As a counselor I don’t tell you how to live your life, I don’t prescribe medication, I don’t put unrealistic expectations on you, I don’t judge you…I am HUMAN just like you!! I have made bad decisions, I have found myself not wanting to work or get out of bed…just like you. I make sure to make that clear to every client I encounter. Now, not all counselors are created equal, so shop around to find a good fit.

Medication: I have had experiences with medication personally and through observation of others close to me. It can be scary, but it can also be helpful. Yes there are weird side effects such as night sweats, weight gain/loss, extra anxiety, vivid weird dreams, cotton mouth…just to name a few…but they can also lower your anxiety levels over time, allow you to see in color again, and overall make you feel so much better as you work on healing yourself. Medication doesn’t have to be permanent unless you feel it’s necessary…there are other natural options to help supplement.

Crazy talk: Just because you see a counselor or take meds doesn’t mean you are CRAZY!!! To tell you the truth…..we are all a little CRAZY! No one is PERFECT!! PERFECTION doesn’t exist!! We all have brains, and emotions…therefore we are all effected by our daily encounters. Some have great coping skills and others don’t. Don’t allow others opinions or actions towards you…make you think you are any less of a person. They are most likely suffering themselves from something they are too afraid to reveal. Embrace that inner CRAZINESS!!!

Weakness: To be able to admit to yourself and others that you need help takes STRENGTH!! You are not WEAK when you cry or ask for help…You are BRAVE and STRONG…and SMART!!! You don’t want to give up, feel pain, confusion, or loss…you want to LEARN and CHANGE it!!! Seeing a counselor or being diagnosed doesn’t make you WEAK!! Empower yourself and make positive changes in your life. Don’t allow the diagnosis or the emotions to take control…They are just labels and feelings…you are a HUMAN BEING…your existence is a miracle in its self. You are more powerful and important than any problem you encounter.

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Now the real question…To GIVE UP & EXCLUDE…or To LEARN, EDUCATE, & GROW??

It’s easy to stay depressed, reject, or to suffer…NO ONE wants it…but it’s easy and comfortable. It’s uncomfortable to allow yourself to be vulnerable and ask questions or get help. Allow yourself to be uncomfortable. A moment of vulnerability can change your life or the life of another. Educate yourself so you can educate others. Mental illness doesn’t have to be taboo or a negative thing. We can save those who feel they can’t go on..those who have lost hope… You don’t have to suffer silently.  We have the ability to create a POSITIVE image of Mental Health. Ask questions…get help…educate yourself and GROW. Don’t let Mental Illness be scary.

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The Fear of Fear

Throughout my life I have been crippled by fear. I only recently discovered this. I was comfortable with what life was. I always dreamed of more, but was too SCARED to make changes or take risks. I didn’t push myself any more than what was necessary. Life was fine, I was good. I was a school counselor making 65,000 a year, had insurance, a home, a husband, a supportive family. Even with all that I wasn’t happy. I got a divorce, I leased my home to a family, I quit my job. I was seeking happiness everywhere, but it was nowhere to be found.

Until…one day I decided to take a risk and face my fears. I was afraid of failure…I was afraid of FEAR itself. FEAR is a funny thing. You can be so FEARFUL of FEAR that you continue to live the life you have. I decided I would embrace my FEARS, and failures and learn from them.

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FEAR#1

fear of being alone and not having a family: truth is…this no longer frightens me. I’m 34 no prospects and no children. I’ve decided to love myself and be in a relationship with me. It’s the greatest love story I’ve ever been part of. Children…well I’m God Mother to three wonderful little girls, and they brighten my day every encounter we have….and there’s always artificial insemination and adoption.

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fear of not being successful: This haunts me daily….because this haunts me daily I choose to make BIG goals for myself and make sure I NEVER fail. I started a business and decided to apply to graduate school. It’s time people start referring to me as DR. LIRA.

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fear of being by myself in public: I used to never go anywhere alone. I was scared of people approaching me or scared of speaking to others or scared of what people might think about me. Had to kill this one slowly…started with going to the movies, then a bar where I knew someone who was working there, then large venue concerts, then PARIS!! Learning to be comfortable alone was best experience I could’ve ever given to myself. Wandering  the streets of Paris alone not knowing where I was, or where I was going was the most liberating experience. I grew tremendously from it, and became evern strongrer.

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FEAR#4

fear of losing everything: For years I’ve struggled with spending. I blame my ADHD brain. I tend to forget what I spend or have too much faith that no matter what…things will always be fine….even if I’m negative $1,000 in my account. I’ve learned that I can’t change the decisions I make, but I can be more wise about them. I’ve learned to create a budget and stick to it. Although recently it’s become a problem again due to this new business. Time to redo my budget. Because being in the negative is never a great experience.

Despite my many FEARS I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s better to LIVE then to be afraid. I try not to let the FEAR continue get to me, but I’m human. Daily I still FEAR FAILURE. So, I choose everyday to Get up and get things done. I keep myself extremely BUSY.  I make lists to make sure I accomplish even the smallest tasks. Sometimes I accomplish my entire list for the week and sometimes I move it to the next week. BUT I GET IT DONE!!!

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FEAR feeds ANXIETY don’t allow yourself to get stuck in your FEAR. Embrace it and choose to live freely. When you feel the FEAR face it and change that fear into a PASSION….then use that PASSION to CONQUER your FEAR.

When I quit my job in the school district I was scared, but had no choice but to succeed. I took my teacher retirement and invested it all into one of my dreams that I always FEARED. Daily I ask myself “what are you doing?” and “is it worth it?”  and “Is this even going to work or be successful?”…I even think about quitting and going back to working for someone, or even going back to the schools…but then I tell myself you can’t just put 9 years of being in education to waste!!! You don’t do well with working for others!!! YOU HAVE TO KEEP GOING!! So then I create a new mini goal and get it ACCOMPLISHED! I CHANGE MY FEARS INTO A PASSIONS!!!

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Learning to love myself, learning to be comfortable alone, and experiencing LIFE has taught me it’s ok to be FEARFUL as long as you don’t allow it effect the person you could become. I used to let my FEAR guide me. Now I use my FEAR to motivate me.

You always have a choice in life…choose wisely. Use your FEARs towards MOTIVATION. Ask yourself what is it that you FEAR. Write it down, then change your thoughts about it and change that FEAR into a PASSION. USE it, ACCOMPLISH it, MAKE things HAPPEN. Dont allow your FEARS to take control or cripple you. Rememeber….You are in control of you. IMG_0822

 

Friendships they can build you up, or they can break you down….

I have been an LPC for 4 years and a CSC for 8 years. As a Middle School Counselor I ran into many issues in regards to friendships. As an LPC I see adults, young adults, and children who have problems with friendships. I have even personally struggled keeping friends and making friends throughout my years. 

Friendships are difficult to make and to maintain. They are a lot like romantic relationships you must communicate, and compromise to make them work. Many are one sided. One individual will give more then the other. Some may have big mouths, or no filter.


 I’m very opinionated, free spirited, and outgoing. For those who don’t understand me they will take things personally, become offended or even envious. I end up falling out of touch with most. The few friends I’ve kept know me well. They know I’m loyal, and I will move mountains for them. They are who I choose to keep in my life and build with. 

As a young person, I didn’t understand that when people back away from me it’s not about me, but has everything to do with a weakness they have. I always thought it was my fault and wanted to fix it. Even to this day I try to fix my friendships that start to drift. I almost need proof that I did everything I could. Once I get the proof I need…I let them go. 


I may know this now, but…way back, when I lost friendships and relationships I acted like it was the end of my world. I blamed myself and tortured myself by inflicting emotional pain. I would isolate myself and tell myself no one likes me, no one wants to be around me, and I BELIEVED it!!! Aye!!! Such self-destructive behavior!!! I see a lot of these behaviors in my clients and past students.  

When others choose not be in your life it’s their loss and their problem! It was nothing you did.!! The ones that stay are the ones that matter. Focus on those relationships; not the ones that decided to walk away from you; they don’t matter!!!


Remind yourself daily:

I am worthy, I am loved, I am needed, I have people who love and care for me, I didn’t do anything wrong. 

If you are one of those people who back away from people you once had connections with…ask yourself why? Why don’t I need them any more? Why did I need them before?What are my thoughts about that person? 

Friendships can be beautiful when you allow them to be. When you connect with like minded people…When you share common life goals…When they become part of your family…Friendships can be productive and inspiring. 


Finding friendships are difficult especially if you’re an introvert, naturally anxious, and an antisocial person…Like myself at times….I tend to connect with people through others. I will connect with people I see daily such as co-workers and branch out from there. Other ways you can make friendships is by being brave and joining different groups of people that are like minded. Church groups, social networking groups, meet up groups, yoga, the gym, workout groups, cross fit, dating sites. 
Don’t change who you are for another person. You may have had great memories together….You may have experienced similar life journeys…You may have thought you’d be friends forever…You may have accepted them completely. However, If they can’t accept you…let them go.

Friends come and friends go…but positivity, self love, and self acceptance is rare. Find it and you will find your happiness.  

The Bullet Journal

I recently heard about the Bullet Journal while speaking to a young client a few weeks ago. We were talking about how keeping track of details, and doing research can ease her overwhelming thoughts. I didn’t understand exactly what it was…she explained, and stated she was going to be adding it to her daily routine to ease her anxiety. I absolutely loved the concept!!

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When I was younger, out of control ADHD, constant streaming thoughts, pre-medication, pre-diagnosed, pre-amazing OILS…I would keep myself sane by writing in my planner. I color coded, and stickie noted everything!!! Once I graduated and got comfortable with my career my brain decided it needed a break. I stopped color coding and decided to stickie note everything! I had post its EVERyWHeRE!! Which if you can imagine became extremely confusing!

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My life was a MESS!! I was forgetting everything! So I decided to start using my iPad and sync it to my iPhone! I started setting reminder alarms, and keeping track of life electronically. However, recently with my new chaos and getting myself organized the electronic record keeping isn’t cutting it. I need to get my life together!!!

I decided I would try this Bullet Journal technique. Now I just have to start a new routine. That’s always the challenge with me. I always start so strong…then lose intrest in what I’m doing. I’m so easily strayed from productive, positive life activities. I’m a CLASSIC Self-Sabotager! BTW…My weight loss has been put on hold due to my Self-Sabotaging behaviors. I will put it in my new Bullet Journal to get that weight loss challenge started again soon!! Until then I will jump back on my weight gain emotional rollercoaster. I just have trouble saying no to bacon cheese burgers and chicken strips….

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CHecK it out and GivE it a trY!!

How Millennial are you?

Everywhere you turn these days you will hear something about a “Millennial.” What, or who is a Millennial? Google that ASAP!!  You might hear that the Millennial only cares about social media, selfies, texting, and are completely about themselves(Selfish). Well all of that is true….But not all of them are the same. The more, and more I heard the term Millennial…of course I became curious. Am I a Millennial? But WAIT if I’m a Millennial…How do I have a job, mortgage, car, ambitions? I don’t get it!!!??? Well of course I had to find out…So I took an online quiz…BTW (by the way) that is another thing that a Millennial does. Quizzes have all the answers, and so does GOOGLE!!!

Take Millennial Quiz

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Well turns out I’m more Millennial then I thought I was. I was born in 1984, so I fall right on the edge of the Millennial generation. I use social media daily to advance my career, and attempt to reach others by telling my story. I mostly text, because it’s easier. But it is nice to get a phone call, or video call from someone I actually want to talk to. It makes me feel extra special.

Yes I sleep with my phone on  my nightstand, but it’s on Do Not disturb. I use my phone every night not only to Snap!…But I also use it to sleep. I’m lost with my meditation app Calm. I need my nature sounds!!! Oh and oils!! I’m a firm believer in natural healing, and positive thought. I use my phone for many things such as journaling using Daylio, yoga using Down Dog, Facebook for promoting myself, and business. So, yes I might be attached to my phone, but I know when to put it down, and be in the moment with others. I promote apps, and oils with my clients daily to help them heal. FYI it works!!! I have an oil for anything, and Yes I have an app for it too!!

Why is it that society lumps all Millennials in one category? That just makes no sense. Yes there are those who are unambitious, lazy, no school, no job, stuck to their phones & not for advancement, selfie kings and queens that take pics to capture themselves, and make themselves look desirable, because they don’t feel desirable…but then there are those who use technology to get ahead or heal…the ones who bought their first house at 24 or younger, and bought their first car at 17. The motivated ones, the ones that have a plan. Yes I’m a selfie queen myself…GUILTY…but there is tons more to me then what you see in my selfie. I refuse to be defined by my generation, or my FABULOUS selfie. img_4593

So how Millennial are you??? Are you motivated? Unmotivated? Whoever? or Whatever you are…You can do whatever you put your mind to….But how do you figure out what you want to do??? That’s the Million dollar question….It took me years to figure it out. Now that I have figured it out; I’m not stopping until I conquer the WORLD!! But…What does someone, who has no clue do??

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First: Figure out what you like…Hobby? Interest? What are you good at?

Second: Set goal…Not a five year goal…But a NOW goal…One that can be accomplished in 3-6 months.

Third: Make a Plan, take your planner out, and write it down!!! If it’s not on paper it doesn’t happen, or exist!

Fourth: Do your research, and accomplish it!!! GOOGLE is your friend!!!

Nothing happens without a plan, and some action. So Millennial or not…Ambitious or not…Have a clue or not…Make things happen for yourself. Don’t let people criticize you based on their perception of who they think you may be. Prove them wrong…Prove them ALL wrong, and do something AMAZING!!

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the dating game…CORRUPTED!

Years ago when my parents, and their parents dated. You found someone you liked, and the man courted the women. Built a relationship, took the women out, made them feel comfortable, appreciated, and cared for. Oh the women reciprocated, and the man felt wanted and needed. There wasn’t…let me see how many likes I can get on my selfie…I wonder how many good Comments I can get…people weren’t stuck on their phones trying to see how many people they can get to like them! They actually used to COMMUNICATE with each other.

Dating today…What can I say…Well…it’s STUPID, and doesn’t exist. I am a 33 year old single women. No children, great career, home owner, genuine, and have a great personality. I’ve tried dating, shoot I’ve even been married, which didn’t work out obviously. I’ve met men at bars, while I’m out & about, on Facebook, dating sites (match, clover, tinder, eharmony), from family and friends introducing. What have I found you ask??? NOT A DAMN THING!!

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What I’ve found is the same across the board from when I dated at 22 until today at 33. Well at 22 I was shy, and really didn’t date much at all. Those men I did meet I just wasn’t interested in, and would stop talking to them…or…they’d realize I wasn’t what they were looking for, and stop talking to me.

Today at 33 I’m very confident, I’ve learned a lot, and know what I want. Lately what I’ve found is the same kind of men…and I’m sure this can apply to women out their as well

1) They will sweet talk you, make you think you are amazing to get what they want…SEX!!! Oh but they will NEVER take you out. 2) They will take you out on a date a few times then…STOP talking to you!! 3) They will send you UNWANTED PICS, and think they can sleep with you, and your BFF behind your back!! But then of course your BFF tells you, BC she’s your BFF, so you & her BLOCK their ASS 4) They will make you feel special, take you out occasionally, and see you on their time (when they aren’t with the other girl/boy…the one they LIE about to make you think they’re single) 5) The one you get along with great, talk to frequently, have fun with, but they don’t have the balls to do anything more (date, hangout, touch) or maybe they are just comfortable being single?? That’s ok, but say something!! 6) They are MARRIED!!! They want their cake, and eat it too!! Ummmm Bye Bye!! 7) The one you meet online who lives far away. 8) The cool one that’s just going to be a friend

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What do I want…??? I want someone to enjoy life with, to travel with, laugh with, dance with, shop, play, love, watch sports with. I want a life partner, someone to share my time with, and experience the wonders of the world with. I don’t want a BOYFRIEND! I don’t want a HUSBAND! I want someone who can speak to my soul, and make me want to love myself even more then I already do. Someone who wants to escape life with me, and live in a tree, and dance in the rain. If I never find him I’ll be ok doing it alone, because I am COMPLETE!

My question for the men or women is…on what planet is it ok, and acceptable to do the above things?? SERIOUSLY though???!! Who is putting it in the heads of men & women that negative behavior is acceptable? Is it because some allow it? It is because they are praised for it? It is because they actually get something out of it?  I don’t understand it…lying, cheating, deceiving. In my 33 years I’ve learned that negative behavior, thoughts, and emotions bring you a negative lifestyle. Bad stuff happens to you…you feel lonely, loss of jobs, loss of family, regret, fear, abuse, trauma, guilt. From my observations, and experiences I have discovered  that NEGATIVE LIFESTYLES, BRING NEGATIVE OUTCOMES!!!

 

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SO again…Why would anyone want to put negativity in their lives even when it comes to DATING?? Why is it hard to be HONEST? Hey maybe I’ll open up a match making/dating site where your required to have a psychological evaluation before you start dating one, or multiple women or men. What’s the key to successful dating, and relationships??? Well…COMMUNICATION & HONESTY!!! If you are one of the millions out there that struggle in this area…Schedule an online appointment!! I can help you change your negative behaviors, thoughts, and emotions into something more positive. Then maybe you’ll see a positive change in your life.

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When amazing people die it hits close to home…

With the recent deaths of Robin Williams, Heath Ledger, Amy Winehouse, Whitney Houston, Chris Cornell, and Chester Bennington…my heart can’t help but ache. I lost my brother October 29, 2013. The death certificate states his death was undetermined through asphyxia by hanging.

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When first finding him in our family home we thought suicide, murder, then absolute confusion….later when our minds cleared, and we put the pieces together we realized it was autoerotic asphyxiation. What the HELL is that you ask? Why are you sharing that? I’m sharing for a number of reasons: to keep my brother’s memory alive, to help others that may had a similar experience, and didn’t know what to think or believe, to help people understand the danger behind it, to support those who suffer.

Autoerotic asphyxiation: The intentional restriction of oxygen to the brain for purposes of sexual arousal. Who and Why would anyone put themselves at risk to achieve sexual arousal? Well many people do it. In fact the detective investigating my brother’s death told my mom that he sees this type of death occur frequently. Why do they do it? Fetish, to get a high or rush, to feel something. Think about it…Why do people cut, do drugs, drink alcohol??? All actions can end in death if you lose control, but everyone has their own reasons for why they do it.

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I believe my brother was chasing the high. He was diagnosed with Bipolar as a teenager. He struggled with alcohol, drug use, depression, and anxiety throughout his short life. As a teenager, and young adult he cut, sniffed, restricted food from his body, he was mugged, survived an elevator fire, stole, did all kinds of weird stuff. He was always looking for the next high…whether he put himself at risk, or not he was fearless, and adventurous. He put himself into rehab two times, and after the last time in rehab he died.

My brother suffered silently. Not many knew about his struggle, so when they heard about his death it was shocking. He was a champion debater, he attended College at George Washington University, and later transferred to University of Texas at San Antonio; when he realized he needed his family’s support. He received his Bachelor degree in Political science, and planned to conquer the world. He was charismatic, and loved by many.

I knew SUICIDE was never, never an option for him, so of course I kept digging. His last journal entry was a few hours before he died, and he talked about his future, becoming better, and doing amazing things. He had just poured himself a glass of coke, and vodka his favorite. In my mind he was about to sit, relax, and wait for us to get home to talk about his day. The thing about my brother is that he just always had the worst coping skills, and this one killed him. He ran out of lives, and God couldn’t save him. I like to believe he went peacefully with my deceased family members around him.

When I hear that these amazing, talented artists die by committing suicide, and are found hanging. I start to wonder…Is it really suicide, or did they suffer as my brother did? It pains me to see the media speculate. Leave the families alone. It’s hard enough to lose your loved one, but to see people talk about them…It hurts. I remember people talking, and speculating about my brother. In fact they still do, but I guess people need closure. All these amazing people suffered from bipolar, or depression of some sort, but would they really commit suicide? My brother was artistic, creative, he wrote music and played many instruments without lessons, he was a writer, an artist. He loved, and valued himself too much to kill himself. I can still picture his soul kneeling & crying next to us (I could feel him), as we gathered around him, and cried over his body; telling us how sorry he was. I just tell him not to worry, that we love him, and we aren’t mad at him. We accept all of him, and know he didn’t do it on purpose; he wanted to LIVE! Now I have to do it for him.

Autoerotic asphyxiation is an addiction, but people don’t speak of it. Like a drug or alcohol addiction you can lose control. My brother lost consciousness, and couldn’t get himself up even though he was so close to the ground, he couldn’t save himself it was too late. That’s how it happened. I pray this brings some people the closure they need to allow these amazing people to rest. We must keep them alive through their accomplishments, and always remember the good. Share the music, and the movies they created.  Have them continue to touch others lives as they touched yours. The bad happened, and unfortunately they are no longer here. But I’ll never forget my brother, and I will always share his memory, help, support, and defend those who suffer from any mental illness. Join me to do the same.

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Juan Antonio Lira

March 30, 1986-October 29, 2013

That weirdo that craves change…

Change makes my world go round…I’m constantly making changes. Even as a child I never did anything for a long period of time. I did ballet, gymnastics, artsy stuff, softball, tap…I Love to change things up, and try out everything…so, now Whether it’s changing my hair color chopping off my hair, moving, making new friends, changing jobs…I need change in my life to keep going. It motivates me! 


Changing my hair is BIG for me. I’ll grow it long then chop it off, or dye it black, red, then go platinum blonde. Each time I change anything it’s because I started a new chapter in my life…Or I just get bored with it, and need something different.

     

Soooo what’s next for me who knows we shall see…Do you make frequent changes in your life? Are you indecisive? Are you spontaneous? What kind of person are you? Many people don’t know why they do the things they do…I can help you figure it out. Embrace positive change it helps us grow as individuals, & makes life interesting, & exciting. 

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