We all have social media. Social media is how our world communicates. Today I was on snap chat and a good friend of mine made a comment on snap chat that sparked my thoughts. He said in so many words thank you to all my 3hundred blah blah blah followers for viewing my bologna sandwich. This comment got my brain ticking. WOW do you even know those 3hundred whatever people? His answer was of course NO…
I can recall a time in my life where I depended on social media for my entertainment and to feel good about myself. I would literally check it all the time to see who viewed my posts, who liked my posts…then I would have a reaction to it. I would feel good or feel disappointed based on who or the number of views. As I reflect now I can see how bad of a place I was in at the time….BUT
Why do we allow social media to dictate our emotions. I know I’m not the only one who has experienced this. The feelings of sadness or loneliness based on a message or a view or lack there of…It sounds ridiculous but it’s true…It happens everyday. When you open snap chat, instagram, twitter, or facebook you know you get a smile if you see others are interested in your posts. You might even get more excited or happy when someone messages you about your posts or makes a positive comment.
However, most people on social media don’t know half of the people they have as “Friends.” So why do we care? Why do we allow complete strangers to control our emotions? Crazy when you start to really think about it…We have become a society that is completely controlled by social media the views and likes provided by complete strangers…It will boost our confidence or put someone in a really dark place.
I’m pretty sure there are some people reading this saying…that’s not me, I don’t do that…oh really then why do you post on social media??? Why do you check who’s viewed your story? Yup that’s right…anyone who has social media has allowed a complete stranger, or someone they know to control their emotions in one way or another.
So how do you gain control of your emotions, and still use social media without it destroying you or your relationships??? Well, honestly some don’t want to and there’s nothing wrong with that. But if you’re anything like me and rather be in control of your own emotions and be mentally healthy….
First thing to do is to go through your social media and delete anyone you don’t know or have not had a connection with at some point in your lifetime.
Next thing reality check…NO ONE CARES ABOUT YOU!!! Just because people view your story doesn’t mean they care!!! The reason they looked is most likely because they were bored, or they are stalking you…Unless they are your true friends or family who just want to keep up with your life.
So then why are you posting so much? You want the attention? or to be entertained by comments? Just think about it and make a choice….to post or not to post…Do I need fake validation from people who don’t even personally know me??
Personally I have changed the way I use social media. Yes I used to post provocative pictures and videos of myself for the attention, but now I ask myself do I really want the attention of people who honestly DON’T GIVE A DAMN about me?? UMMMM NO I don’t!!!
I did what I suggested above. Do I have fewer people entertaining me?? YES…but honestly I’m in a much healthier place in my life, and I don’t want or need people in my life that don’t care about me. My main goal with social media these days are to connect with family, to get ideas for blog posts, or to grow my business.
I just ask you to think about why you’re on social media? What is it doing for your life? If it leaves you feeling empty or with some sort of emotional reaction…Then reevaluate why you have it, and who you allow into your life through viewing it. Just something to think about…